So, if you read this blog last week, you may have read my partial rant about how husbands or significant others can spend money on gifts that they think their wives or significant others want.
However, if your significant other is a frugal-minded person, giving them what you think they want may actually have the reverse effect as the one you intended. Instead of making them happy and smiling because you are so thoughtful to give them a gift, you just tick them off.
Last week, I gave you a few ideas of the type of items that will tick off your frugal honey, so this week, I am sharing with you some things that would make her happy.
1) Your Time
My hubby and I both work, and we also have an 8-year-old son who consumes quite a bit of time and energy. Usually by the end of the day, we can barely have a full conversation and just want to get some rest. There are times, though, when my hubby has come home early just to hang out with me and chat, or he makes a conscious effort to put his phone down and give me his undivided attention when I have things on my mind.
I understand the value of his time and energy, so when I get it from him undividedly, it truly is a gift I cherish. Unless of course, I am in the middle of watching Dancing with the Stars or The Voice (but we have been married 10 years, so he knows better than to interrupt that time).
I love a massage more than anything, especially since I spend lots of my time on a computer and really feel it in my neck and shoulders. I hate to pay for one from a stranger, though, and I hate to burden hubby who has hard days as well. Every now and then, though, he senses extra stress in my life and offers to give me a massage without expecting one in return. I literally cry tears of joy every time he makes that offering. It is another “free” gift that has tremendous value to me.
3) Your Handyman Skills (No matter how poor they are)
I don’t know a single friend of mine who does not have a honey-do list for her hubby. If you own a home, or even if you rent, there is always something around the home that needs some kind of attention, whether it is a squeaky door or a clogged sink. If you were to take on one of these tasks without her asking, you would be her hero.
If you don’t know what needs to be done, just asking her if there is anything she would like you to do around the house would be HUGE. If you are not confident in your DIY skills, here’s a link to some great resources courtesy of my DIY guy.
4)Babysitting (your own kids)
If you have kids, one of the greatest gifts you can give your wife is babysitting time with your kids. Even if it is for just a few hours so she does not have to bring them with her on an errand, or for her to workout or go out with her friends for a ladies night, it would be a great gift. We mom’s love our kids, but we also like some time to decompress from them, and if you step up and offer that time willingly, it will be much appreciated.
This is a little more ambiguous, but it’s because you should take some time and think about the tasks your wife does around the house and think about doing some of those for her. Perhaps you could do the laundry a few times, or unload the dishwasher, or cook dinner. Everyone splits up tasks differently at home, but if you were to take on some of your significant other’s tasks for a day, a few days or a week, you would give her a break that would be worth more than any bouquet of flowers you could find.
These are just a few ideas, but if you are really thinking about giving something to your wife or significant other, the best thing you can do is ask her what she wants or what is important to her. I can assure you, though, that the best gifts you give her are your time and consideration for everything she does.
What frugal gift ideas would you recommend or like to receive?
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