Strategies for Introverts to Avoid Becoming Drained
At times, introverts can be viewed as rude or even downright anti-social. In reality, though, introverts get their energy from being alone and being in social situations for long periods of time is draining. Extroverts, of course, get their energy from being around people and actually can get drained from being alone for too long.
While introverts will never get the same energy as extroverts do from being around others, there are different strategies they can use to avoid becoming drained from being around others.
Here are a few ways for introverts to avoid becoming drained from being around others too often:
Find a career or job that gives you alone time
While introverts can be just as successful as extroverts in jobs that require constant interaction and communication with others, it can be more draining. I always wondered what the point was of those tests in middle school where you see what jobs line up with your personality, but now it’s clear: you are bound to be more succesful in a job that gives you energy than you are in a job that drains you.
That doesn’t mean that an extrovert can’t work in accounting or an introvert in retail; they absolutely can (trust me, my manager is an extrovert and I’m an introvert – same career). Specific jobs within each field will call for more or less interaction and more or less alone time. For example, a patent lawyer may spend hours upon hours looking over technical documents, while other lawyers may spend most of their time interacting with clients or following leads on a case.
Make sure you schedule time for yourself
Especially if you have a job or lifestyle that causes most of your waking hours to be spent socializing or meeting with others, try to make sure there is some time at the end (or beginning or middle) of the day that can be spent recharging your batteries.
Your time outside of work is going to have to take into consideration your time at work: if you work retail and have to spend hours upon hours helping customers, you likely will want to reserve more of your time outside of work for alone time. On the other hand, if you have a job where you spend most of your day working on a computer and not interacting with others, you can get away with less time to yourself outside of work. It’s all about balance.
Leave social gatherings when you want to
Introverts can certainly still have just as much fun at parties and other social gatherings, but being there too long can result in becoming exhausted. When you go to a social gathering and you feel like leaving, you should leave. This will allow you to be able to go to more social events without the fear of becoming burnt out.
Being from Minnesota, we have this thing called “The Minnesota Goodbye.” When you are with others, it takes forever to leave. The goodbyes can drag on for an hour (no joke). While it may not be the most polite thing to do, you do not have to say goodbye to each and every person. Instead, try to make a relatively quick exit. People will not be offended, and if they are they need to learn more about the differences between introverts and extroverts!
Introverts need to recognize the fact that they get drained when they are around others, just as extroverts need to recognize their need to be around others and make sure their job or time outside of work is scheduled accordingly.
Are you an introvert or extrovert? How does it impact your lifestyle?
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